Do you know the purpose of your life and are you actively contributing to it?
What is the most worthwhile thing in your life? How do you feel about the way you spend each day? What tangible or intangible difference do you make to people and the world? Do you feel worthy and important to those around you?
These are crucial questions that a lot of people are beginning to ask themselves.
Time was when leading a normal life in an honest and upright manner, imparting good values to your children and generally being a good human being was enough. Not anymore. Today people realize the importance of leading a worthwhile life that rises above the mundane concerns of living, eating, working and procreating.
Recently I was surprised when a newly-formed acquaintance asked me, "Do you follow any spiritual practice? Any guru? Do you at least practice yoga?" It was an eye-opener to have someone I had just met and who barely knew me ask these questions.
Adopting a spiritual practice or following a guru has become almost a calling card. It is one of the ways in which people seek to establish their own worth. And it's not just a quiet religion either; people make a big show of their commitment, even obsessive attachment, to the guru or sect they follow. To an extent the 'I am Anna" phenomenon falls in the same category. Belonging to a sect or a cause seems to boil down to a search for self-worth, a need we all have to lead a worthwhile life and so avoid falling into the category of an "also was!"
So, if you have participated in a discourse on philosophical or spiritual issues in the day, had a heated discussion on the state of the nation, or stood vigil in the sun while Anna fasted, you feel you have done your bit and are a worthwhile cog in the wheel of life. Some others may get the same feeling after reading a good book or watching a movie that leaves them with some worthwhile thoughts and questions. Still others find solace in helping others -- be it with words of advice, food, money, education, work or shelter. Yet others find their worth in attempting to influence social, political, economic or environmental changes.
The choices are many and dictated by the personal urges and aspirations of different people. But if each of us were to locate our personal trigger for feeling worthy, it would have a positive impact on not just our own lives but that of communities and the countries as well. How can you figure out what is worthwhile to you in particular?
When entrepreneur and author Chip Conley was invited to speak at the TED conference in 2010, he echoed the thought being raised by some world leaders that measuring a country's growth rate by measuring its Gross Domestic Product (GDP) is not a relevant benchmark. He reiterated the words of Bhutanese King Jigme Singye Wangchuk that why don't people talk of a country's 'Gross National Happiness' rather than GDP? Chip Conley left an appreciative audience with the question, "What is the intangible difference you make rather than the tangible work you do?"
Happiness, all would agree, seems to be the key of a life well-lived. A fair measure of what makes life worthwhile for us would then be what makes us really happy! But even more important than that is to believe that there is a reason and a purpose to life and you can contribute something to that purpose. If you did not believe that, you probably wouldn't be reading this column.
The purpose and what we can contribute to it is what makes life worthwhile. Some of us just seem to know the purpose of our lives and stride confidently towards it, while others dither on the edge. A colleague asked Aruna Roy what made her resign from the IAS at an early age and follow her dream. She replied that once she was sure of what she really wanted to do, she just followed her heart and has never regretted it to this day. To find the purpose, we have to be able to trust our hearts, our instinct and allow it to lead us.
If you get a general feeling of well-being and happiness most of the time when you think of your day, you have found your purpose and are leading a worthwhile life. A friend suggests that each of us write down five things that make us happy and try to follow at least three daily. After a while, he says, we would realize what really matters. It doesn't matter what the purpose is so long as it translates into making our lives and those of others worthwhile and happy.. As Albert Einstein said, "Not everything that can be counted counts. And not everything that counts can be counted."
So, what is the one thing for you that would make your life worthwhile? Think about it and let's discuss
http://blogs.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/O-zone/entry/what-makes-your-life-worthwhile 25 Sept, 2011
